[I]magine what would happen if, instead of centering our beliefs about heterosexual sex around the idea that the man “penetrates” the woman, we were to say that the woman’s vagina “consumes” the man’s penis. This would create a very different set of connotations, as the woman would become the active initiator and the man would be the passive and receptive party. One can easily see how this could lead to men and masculinity being seen as dependent on, and existing for the benefit of, femaleness and femininity. Similarly, if we thought about the feminine traits of being verbally effusive and emotive not as signs of insecurity or dependence, but as bold acts of self-expression, then the masculine ideal of the “strong and silent” type might suddenly seem timid and insecure by comparison.
Q:Hi Yeti, I've been following your blog for a long time and I've always really liked your views and morals and agreed with them- however, my parents were both "dumb hippie"s an neither I nor both my sisters were immunised and out of the three of us maybe one will get a cold every two years. We've got plenty of family and friends who weren't immunised either and all of them have much better immune systems than friends who were. So poo you. Don't be rude.
I respect every person’s decision to do what they want with their own bodies, but here’s how people who decide not to participate in immunizations kill people for real:
Science-based medicine wiped out smallpox using vaccines. Smallpox, let me remind you, used to kill 400,000 Europeans PER YEAR! That’s all American gun deaths PLUS all American car deaths TIMES FIVE. So we got rid of that motherfather. With science. No big deal.
Measles, not quite the killer that Smallpox was, but we were on our way to eliminating it. Also with science. Using vaccines. Now, measles is coming back. That’s like 400 - 500 kids a year dying and 1000 people per year becoming disabled for life because hippies don’t want to vaccinate their kids.
You and your friends are healthy? That’s wonderful. I cannot tell you how happy I am for you and your friends. However, that’s not how vaccines work. You and your friends could probably all get measles and be fine a week later. No big deal. You know who it is a big deal to, though? The baby you accidentally gave measles to when you didn’t know you were contagious yet. And the old lady on the bus who was unfortunate enough to be inhaling oxygen right at the time you coughed.
They’re dead now. They’re dead forever because of your hippie parents.
Healthy people need to be vaccinated against diseases we have vaccinations for because some people are not healthy and those diseases will kill them.
Yeah. AND THIS FACT CANNOT BE OVEREMPHASIZED:
YOU ARE HEALTHY BECAUSE MOST OF THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU ARE PROTECTING YOU BY BEING VACCINATED AND BY THUS NOT BEING CARRIERS.
When I was in Nursery school, I couldn’t get the MMR vaccine because it is cured in eggs, and I was violently allergic to eggs (nearly died of anaphylaxis to find that one out) and a kid in my class also hadn’t gotten it because he had Leukemia.
Anyway cool kids from the no-vaccines! family went to Florida and came back with Measles. Me and Leukemia boy had to be quarantined for three weeks. Girl in my class got through it, having only vastly inconvenienced me and Leukemia kid for HER PROBLEM, but her sister wasn’t so lucky, was hospitalized for a month, and ended up with brain damage.
If you think for a minute you’re healthy BECAUSE you didn’t get vaccinated THINK AGAIN. You’re only healthy because the RESPONSIBLE PEOPLE around you protect you by not PROLIFERATING the disease with their VACCINATED IMMUNITY. The only thing your not getting vaccinated has done is put all the people who CAN’T get vaccinated at risk, as well as your stupid self.
I would like to frame this.
I get a lot of messages, most of which are asking about my deconversion from christianity. People want to know, why I left, what it meant to me when I was a christian, and why I don’t see any reason to return. For anyone who has asked, and anyone else who is curious, here is my testimony.
I love reading deconversion stories and the ending of this one is particularly awesome. <3 ~JJ
"My body, my choice" only makes sense when someone else’s life isn’t at stake.
Fun fact: If my younger sister was in a car accident and desperately needed a blood transfusion to live, and I was the only person on Earth who could donate blood to save her, and even though donating blood is a relatively easy, safe, and quick procedure no one can force me to give blood. Yes, even to save the life of a fully grown person, it would be ILLEGAL to FORCE me to donate blood if I didn’t want to.
See, we have this concept called “bodily autonomy.” It’s this….cultural notion that a person’s control over their own body is above all important and must not be infringed upon.
Like, we can’t even take LIFE SAVING organs from CORPSES unless the person whose corpse it is gave consent before their death. Even corpses get bodily autonomy.
To tell people that they MUST sacrifice their bodily autonomy for 9 months against their will in an incredibly expensive, invasive, difficult process to save what YOU view as another human life (a debatable claim in the early stages of pregnancy when the VAST majority of abortions are performed) is desperately unethical. You can’t even ask people to sacrifice bodily autonomy to give up organs they aren’t using anymore after they have died.
You’re asking people who can become pregnant to accept less bodily autonomy than we grant to dead bodies.
Perfect response is perfect.
So to get to 51% of the electorate the Republicans are going to have to pull some votes from previously offended demographics.
the greatest part of yesterdays episode. now wheres the womens part?
She kills it every single time on that show. Every. Single. Time.
I don’t really like talking about American politics, but…
but people who get all ‘think of the children!’ when you mention putting queer characters in kids shows piss me off so much
because I am thinking of the children
the queer children who are living in a world that tells them they are wrong at every turn, that denies their existence and refuses to allow them a happy ending
I’m thinking of those children
Scene: Driving into town on icy roads at twilight with the kids in the back seat, two deer about to cross in front of me, a truck right behind me.
Me: Fuck fuck fuck fuck shit shit shit shit
My 3-year-old: I like that song! Sing it again!
*intense discussion of swearing, safe driving habits in bad weather and the benefits of anti-lock breaks followed*
Q:Why are so many people converting to islam, i know two reasons first is to gain spiritual growth and second is by marrying a muslim man, what are the other reasons?
People convert to Islam for a wide range of reasons. Amongst those reasons, I would not put spirituality at the top of the list. The main reason that people convert or side with Islam is for political purposes. Religions are no different from one another. Christianity and Islam, at their core, are incredibly similar.
Religions are all illogical; it isn’t just one that stands out above the rest as being better. In my opinion people who convert to Christianity, Islam, or any religion for that matter, lack empathy, confidence, or logic, and this is what leads them towards religion.
I’ve talked about this issue before actually. If we looked at the demographics where Islam (and religion for that matter) is spreading, it tends to be amongst the poorest, least educated, and most troubled communities. The rich will use religion only as a means to control people and make more money, and thus the wealthy religious people are the ones who are in it for the money. If I was Muslim, I’d be pretty embarrassed about the growth since it is amongst a demographic with a deteriorating quality of life. The more affluent, educated, and successful people in the world tend to be leaning towards atheism or agnosticism. With more education, many people actually leave religion.
As far as the converts to Islam, once again we need to look at the demographics. In American prisons countless number of people tend to become Muslims, which is the product of being hopeless and in search of something to prevent them from going into depression. Many people convert to Islam as a political statement, and some do it as a way of “turning against the white man’s religion”, which is also stance that several members of the Nation of Islam have taken. In general, if we look at why the majority of people have converted to Islam in the past century, you come to realize that it has very little to do with the actual religion and a lot more to do with the individual’s political and dogmatic views. While it may be true that Islam is growing rapidly in some regions of the world, that growth is attributed to many impoverished nations and communities, where families usually have more children than they can support. Meanwhile, in the more affluent and educated parts of the world Islam, and religion as whole actually, is dying.
- Iranian Atheist (http://iranianatheist.tumblr.com/)
There are very few atheist blogs on tumblr run by former Muslims, so I really appreciate getting IranianAtheist’s insight on issues I’m not familiar with - I wasn’t aware that some conversions to Islam may be a political rejection of the “white man’s religion.” Interesting.
His thoughts on why religion is growing in some populations is, sadly, right on. The more educated and the more affluent the society (and therefore less hopeless), the more likely the members of that society will become atheists. This is not a coincidence. ~JJ
Q:Y'know I believe the shit these girls go through, but I can't help thinking that some of these situations could have been avoided...
You’re right; they could have been avoided if men were taught from an early age that women are people and their boundaries must be respected as such.
Victim blaming is super gross, btw.
Q:why can't reindeer fly???????????
You tell me. :-)
Q:Say 5 things about yourself then send this to your 10 favorite followers :)
1) When I was young I was certain I would either have zero kids and a lot of pets or four kids (2 boys and 2 girls). Clearly I was wrong on both accounts since we have two kids and our pets consist of three fish.
2) My favorite subject in elementary and middle school was math and I was bumped out of seventh and eighth grade math and put into 9th grade algebra and geometry instead. The only downside to this was missing the unit on figuring out percentages which I didn’t learn until I was in college.
3) I was extremely insecure as a child and I’ve really only gotten comfortable with myself within the last three to five years.
4) My three best friends will all be living far, far away a few months from now. Two are already in California and one is moving to freaking Wisconsin. (Dang it, girls! Stop leaving me! *sobs*)
5) This year is the first year I have ever had a mantle to decorate and I am really, really excited to make stockings with the kids. Like, ridiculously excited. Way more excited than they are. WE WILL MAKE THE STOCKINGS AND THEY WILL BE EPIC AND WE WILL HANG THEM BY THE CHIMNEY WITH CARE AND IT WILL BE WONDERFUL. STOCKINGS!!
Let’s teach our children about the story of the universe and its incredible richness and beauty. It is so much more glorious and awesome and even comforting than anything offered by any scripture or God-concept that I know of.