Q:Do you just make shit up? No way your kid says half the stuff you say he does.
Nope! It’s all him.
BUT I will admit to only sharing the good stuff the kiddos say and do, so perhaps there’s an illusion of perfection that makes it seem unrealistic?
I promise they are occasionally little turds. :-)
My 9-year-old son: Mom? I really like the movie Frozen.
Me: I do too!
My son: But I think it’s a really, really good movie for girls.
Me: I think so too, but why do you say that?
My son: Right at the beginning, the guys sing “Ice is a magic that can’t be controlled, stronger than 1, stronger than 10, stronger than 100 men!” But Elsa can control it easy! She’s stronger than 100 men!
My son: What? Am I wrong?
Me: Nope. You continuously impress me.
My son: That’s a good thing, right?
Me: Yes it is.
Q:Hello, you seem like a genuinely lovely person and I was just wondering if you could point me in the right direction of info on how to communicate more effectively. Even just keywords (eg active listening) that I can google would be really useful. I've no idea where to start! You seem to know what you're doing :)
Hi there and thank you!
I need you to be a little more specific - communicating to whom (who’s your audience), communicating what (academic language, persuasive arguments, informal conversation, etc.), and communication method (written, presentation, conversation, etc.).
Come talk to me off anon and I’ll do what I can to help you. :-)
This isn’t meant to be a diatribe against religion. As long as you don’t use your beliefs to oppress or hurt people, all the more (higher) power to you. What I’m talking about is a struggle that more and more people are currently facing: why are we defined by what we don’t believe in? American culture loves to categorize people — to the point that even non-believers are expected to identify with atheism as a “religion.”
Too bad religious is the last thing we care to be.
Chocolate and lies
//Grandpa came over this morning with Easter baskets Grandma got when “she ran into the Easter Bunny yesterday.”
My son (whispering to me): I kinda like that adults lie about stuff like that, but I also think it’s kinda annoying.
Me: Why both?
My son: Well, the lying part is annoying. I don’t like being lied to. But the candy part is fun, so I guess I don’t mind.
Me: Accepting a necessary evil?
My son (shrugging): I really like chocolate.
Science is a way to call the bluff of those who pretend to have knowledge. It is a bulwark against mysticism, against superstition, against religion misapplied where it has no business being.
A belief is not true because it is useful.
Q:"Cosmos" is great and all that, but why no mention of PBS's "Your Inner Fish"?
"We ARE all made from star stuff. Except women, who were made from the rib of a man. Moon? God made it. Ants? God made ‘em. Trees? God made ‘em. Dogs? God made ‘em. Gays? God didn’t make them, they chose that for themselves."
If all we’re doing to address toxic masculinity is to expand the masculine box, we’re not fixing anything.
The problem with the male “box” getting smaller as the gender roles for women expand isn’t feminism, it isn’t women, it isn’t “female privilege”, it’s masculinity, male privilege and the idea that being a man MUST BE BETTER than being a woman, that MAN STUFF CANNOT TOUCH WOMAN STUFF, that being a woman is bad, that being called a girl is the WORST THING EVER, that being told you throw like a girl will DESTROY YOU.
That’s the problem.
And the solution isn’t to push women back, and take all their stuff, and put up a flag saying I PROCLAIM THIS LAND IN THE NAME OF MANHOOD, it’s for “manhood” to get the fuck over itself, and understand there’s nothing wrong with sharing qualities, interests, traits, and identity with girls and women.
Just dug up this article and thought I’d share the most crucial part of it. Ami masterfully examines how hurtful are patriarchal views on gender.